Excuse Me Miss

This fall represents significant changes in my life from both a personal and professional perspective, and if anything else shows the evolvement from my old days. New Publicist, new photography brand, new friends, new scheduling approach. But more importantly, newfound ….estrangement with the whole dating scene as a whole.
I think I’ve come to the realization that I’m cut for only a certain type of women, and anything else is not a match or option otherwise. For starters? Clues within comments. Now everyone who reads this blog KNOWS how much I can’t stand doing the whole reading into comments thing from women (when they say one thing but mean another but expect you to know that), but when you now have women who are going to as far as brushing people off to establish “interest” (that doesnt even make sense at all), it’s becoming all too known as to why so many people are single among our own race, with no light at the end of the tunnel in sight.

What’s wrong with trying things different every once in a while? If you know the formula you’ve been using has NOT been working for X amount of dudes or years, why on earth do women still feel convinced that it will eventually work on someone, especially someone who they consider their “ideal” dude? At some point, you have to look at yourself in the mirror and say “okay it’s not working with this method, lets try something a tad different but still within the means of you as a person” but it seems like that’s taboo amongst African-Americans (change, trying something different). I think my approach over the years has clearly changed when it comes to courting, because the times are different, and the cultural aspect of what we are all going through is completely different from say, back in the late 1990’s when … or even just as recent as 2002, it’s completely different times and mood. They have that old saying “you’re single for a reason” but I like to look at the aspect of why they think they have remained single all of this time. Everyone has their thing: “no one is good enough” or they have outlandish expectations that don’t even add up considering they don’t have the same to match. You can’t ask for a dude who doesn’t roam the clubs when most of your jumpoffs with athletes have come from hanging lingering around VIP hoping to strike just once.

But ask yourself this: how long do you continue to ride that out? And is there a warrant to maybe change up your ways if your formula you’ve been trying has not been met with success?